Favorite Quotes, Books, Movies, and Mantras to Start Meaningful Conversations


Last Updated: January 3, 2024

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Looking to make your next date with your sugar partner more memorable with some deep conversation? We’ve got a list of inspiring, thought-provoking, and sometimes polarizing books, movies, quotes, and mantras to get the ball rolling. No matter what your preferred medium is, you’ll find something on this list that will spark a conversation!

Quotes to invite deep conversation

From love to life lessons to modern dating, these quotes are great jumping boards for further discussion:

  • “I’ve always thought it was about finding the right person. But it’s about choosing the right person, isn’t it?” Lisa Kleypas. Do you think sugaring gives us more freedom to choose the right partner than traditional dating? How is that mindset different?
  • “In love, one and one are one.” Jean-Paul Sarte. When we date someone, do we become one new thing? Do we find our other half? Or is it better for both people to maintain their independence?
  • “At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet” Plato. Have you ever written a poem for someone you love?
  • “Love must be as much a light as it is a flame” Henry David Thoreau. What is the light in your sugar relationship? What is the flame? What would it mean to have one without the other?
  • “Love does not alter the beloved, it alters itself.” Søren Kierkegaard. What are some of the ways that love has changed you? What are some things that you think love could not change about a person?
  • “Fortune and love favor the brave.” Ovid. Do you think that this still holds true today? What do you think it means to be brave in love in modern dating?
  • “The aim of argument or of discussion, should not be victory but progress.” Joseph Joubert. Do you find yourself trying to change the perspective of the person you’re arguing with? Or, do you see arguments as the two of you moving together towards common ground?
  • “Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow internet service to see who they really are.” Will Ferrell. Has your view of someone changed based on their reaction to a minor inconvenience?
  • “Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.” Henry Cloud. Do you feel that you’ve been guilty of showing up to first dates with a false version of yourself?

Start your own book club (or read passages together!)


Whether you and your partner are avid readers or you’re looking to spice up your conversations with some literary discussion, check out these books:

  • Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World by Adam Grant. The sugaring community is full of people who are not afraid to go after what they want, even if it goes against the norm. So, the two of you will definitely be inspired by this read!
  • The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You and your sugar daddy or sugar baby may not be in a traditional relationship, but you can still benefit from learning more about love languages! Reading this book together will help you become more thoughtful, caring, and understanding partners towards one another.
  • Ultimate Journeys for Two: Extraordinary Destinations on Every Continent by Mike & Anne Howard. This National Geographic book is perfect for the sugar couple that loves to travel. You’ll get ideas on where to book your next trip, what to do when you get there, and some thoughtful advice on how to travel as a couple.
  • Romance or the End: Poems by Elaine Kahn. When you want to explore poetry with your partner but aren’t looking for something too sentimental, this is the book for you. Kahn’s poems are strange, sometimes funny, sometimes sensual, and always open to interpretation. Perfect for discussion!

Memorable movies


When you want to cozy up for a night of interesting movies, this list is sure to prompt some great discussion:

  • Lost in Translation (2003). This cult classic tells the story of an age-gap romance between a past-his-prime movie star (Bill Murray) and a Yale philosophy grad (Scarlett Johansson.) No matter whether you find the ending satisfying or not, this movie has sparked many conversations both between viewers and in academic circles. You’re sure to find something to talk about!
  • The Truman Show (1998). If you or your sugar partner has never seen this iconic movie, put it on your list right away! It’s sure to ignite conversations about ethics, happiness, reality, and more.
  • Indiana Jones: Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981). Okay, maybe it’s not the most romantic movie, but it’s a fun-filled 2 hours of action, sexy characters, and intrigue.
  • In the Mood for Love (2000). If you are looking for something nostalgic, romantic, steamy, and cinematic, In the Mood for Love will captivate you and your sugar daddy or sugar baby.

Mantras and affirmations

Looking to bring a bit of depth and connection to your sugar relationship with the right mantras and affirmations? Consider incorporating the following phrases in your sugar relationship to manifest a deeper, more satisfying connection:

  • Listen to understand, not to respond. In sugar dating, it’s common to date someone who has different viewpoints and opinions than you. And this can be a great way to expand your worldview, if you’re able to listen and soak up what your partner has to say.
  • Laughter is the remedy to everything. One of the beautiful things about sugar dating is that it allows you to move beyond the petty fights and pressures of traditional romance. So, don’t take things so seriously! If you’re able to laugh through your relationship, you and your sugar partner will be happier.
  • Enjoy the little things. Maybe your sugar daddy is so busy they can only see you for short times. Instead of resenting them for being busy, try focusing on the positives of the little time you do spend together.
  • No relationship should be one-sided. No one in a sugar relationship should feel more important than the other. So make sure that both are making the other feel valued and wanted with gifts, quality time, compliments, and more.
  • Moments of stagnation require a shake-up. It’s normal for relationships to go through phases of monotony or even boredom. But staying in the same routine for too long can be dangerous. So, don’t be afraid to shake things up! Schedule a trip together, go to a restaurant in a different part of town, wear something spicy!
  • We are both here enthusiastically. Remember that in sugar dating, both parties are active participants in the relationship! You’ve both rejected traditional dating roles and stereotypes in order to construct something more beneficial and satisfying. Remembering this can make you feel more invested and enthusiastic about showing up in the relationship.

Are you ready to revitalize your sugar relationship with our list of quotes, books, movies, and more?

In this article, we’ve provided plenty of different starting points for you and your partner to renew your interest and learn more about each other. So, whether you decide to have a movie marathon with discussions or dedicate a poem to one other, we hope that you’re able to have some interesting conversations with your sugar partner!

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