Good Sugar Daddy Text Messages for First Dates


Last Updated: March 12, 2024

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Sending the right sugar daddy text messages can feel scary. You don’t want to say the wrong thing before a first date and end up ruining the vibe before you’ve met in person! But, you also don’t want to come off so uninterested that they’re tempted to call off the date entirely.

Finding the right balance will ensure that your sugar daddy is ecstatic to meet you. And, learning the art of such a text message conversation is easier than you think.

Keep these texts in your back pocket for the next time you want to impress a potential partner!

“I’m excited to meet you tonight. Does the time and place still work for you?”

We’re starting off with sweet, simple, and classic. You’re letting your sugar daddy know that you’re thinking of them and are looking forward to meeting them.

Equally important, you’re letting them know that you value reliability. By proactively double-checking the details of the date, your sugar daddy knows that you intend to show up at the right place and time. It also sets up the expectation that should the plans change, you will want to know ahead of time. This is a great way to set your arrangement up for success from the get-go.

“One thing I’m dying to find out tonight: your drink of choice.”

If you’re looking for a flirty option, this one is absolute gold. Everyone has their go-to drink for a first date, and what they choose can be a great conversation starter.

There are two ways that your potential partner may respond to this text. On the one hand, they may play it coy. They’ll tell you that you’ll just have to wait to find out. That’s a good sign! It means that your sugar daddy is interested, but they prefer to keep the chit-chat limited until you meet each other in person. Send a short and sweet reply, such as “I’ll come prepared with my guess. See you tonight!” and then give them their space.

Or, on the other hand, they might choose to turn your text into a flirty conversation. They may ask you for your drink of choice so that they can have it ready for you when you walk in. They may be open to teasing about your preference for a certain type of beverage over another. This is all great fodder for finding out if you have chemistry. So, lean into it, and have fun!

“Getting my nails done before our date, any recommendations for color?”

This one is a bit of a wild card because not every sugar daddy will want to talk to you about your salon visits or date preparation. But, if you have already built a bit of rapport and you’ve learned that your potential partner is opinionated about things like fashion and style, this can be a great ice breaker.

In addition to being a good conversation starter, it also sends a clear message: you are serious about looking good for your date. They’ll be anticipating seeing you and they’ll be flattered that you’re going out of your way to look amazing.

“I’m excited to see that winning smile in person”

A compliment is always a great thing to include in your sugar daddy text messages. And, this example is just the right amount of flattery to make your partner feel good without crossing over into embarrassment or shyness.

You can, and should, tailor this to what you’re actually excited about seeing in person. Maybe your sugar daddy has striking eyes. Maybe they have a good fashion sense. Maybe you’ve talked already about their penchant for watches. The more you can make it specific to your sugar daddy, the more genuine it will feel.

“Thank you so much for arranging my pick-up! My dog sitter will be waiting for me afterward, so I wanted to double-check that I can get a ride home, as well.”

Now, let’s talk about boundaries. Because while sending sugar daddy text messages should be fun and playful, they can also be a good place to set some ground rules.

If, for instance, you fully intend on returning home at a certain time, you may want to convey that to your date. That will prevent them from feeling disappointed at the end of the night.

Remember that setting boundaries doesn’t have to be a negative conversation. You might have noticed that our example starts with a show of gratitude. That’s always a great place to begin. Then, we offered a reason (“the dog sitter will be waiting for me”) but you can switch it up by saying that you generally like to be home before midnight or you have plans in the morning so you’re looking to turn in early. Whatever your explanation, it will let your sugar daddy know that it’s nothing personal, but you do not intend on spending the night with them. We’re not saying that you can’t change your mind! But, it’s good to set up the expectation now so that you don’t find yourself in an uncomfortable situation later.

Sugar daddy text messages to avoid


We’ve offered up a few fantastic options to check in with your sugar daddy before your first date. But, we also want to make sure you know which kinds of messages typically fall flat with sugar daddies. Here are a few things to avoid:

  • Too many questions. You may be excited and nervous about your date and think that you can manage those feelings by learning more about the restaurant, what you should wear, what your transportation will be like, whether your date will be late, etc. But, your sugar daddy is probably not going to have all the answers or be interested in answering one million questions. Once they’ve given you the time and place, keep your conversation light. You can look up things like the menu on your own without pestering them about the details.
  • Memes or jokes. Humor certainly has a place in sugar daddy relationships! But, until you’ve actually met in person, memes, GIFs, and jokes can come off the wrong way.
  • Text messages fishing for compliments or validation. You can expect that when your sugar daddy sees you, they’ll lavish you with compliments. But, don’t go looking for them in texts. You want to give off a sense of confidence and self-assurance, especially before they’ve actually met you in person. So, if you want someone to compliment you on your date outfit or hype you up before your meet & greet, call up a friend or family member, not a potential sugar daddy.

What to do if your sugar daddy responds poorly


Every once in a while, you’ll come across a sugar daddy who is simply terrible via texting. Maybe they come from a different generation, maybe they’re extremely busy, or maybe they just don’t like it. The important thing is not to read too much into texts and instead wait to make your final decision about them after you’ve met them in person.

That being said, if your sugar daddy seems to be ghosting, don’t let them waste your time. At the bare minimum, your sugar daddy should send you texts to let you know where and when you’ll be meeting, within a couple of days of your date. If they stop responding, cut your losses and move on to another sugar daddy who is more respectful of your time.

Are you ready to draft your own sugar daddy text messages?

In this article, we’ve given you some tips and ideas for how to text your sugar daddy before a first date. But never forget that you are who they want to get to know. Get creative with your own messages and let your authenticity guide you. As long as you can keep the conversation light, positive, and maybe even a little flirty, your sugar daddy will be looking forward to meeting you in person.

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