Mutually beneficial relationships are growing in popularity, which means there are a lot of sugar daddy stories floating around. Some of them are true. And some of them are simply myths made up by people who are outside of the community. So, how can you know what this ever-growing dating style is really like? One way is to hear the experiences of sugar daddies and babies who live the lifestyle!
Take a look at these compelling stories of success, challenges, and surprises. You might just be inspired to try this fascinating dating style yourself!
First of all, what is sugar dating?
Sugaring is a dynamic, open-minded, and exciting form of dating. You might have heard it called a few different things, such as arrangement dating or a mutually beneficial relationship. But the idea is always the same: partners come to a clear agreement about what they are willing to offer and what they expect to receive from the relationship. No one person in a mutual arrangement holds all the power. Instead, both are dedicated to making each other happy while also enjoying the benefits of their relationship.
So, what are some of the benefits that make this style of dating so appealing? Here are a few:
· Companionship. Many sugar daddies are drawn to this style of dating because it’s a great way to meet new people without the pressure of traditional dating. Sugar daddies tend to be high-powered, busy people who would rather spend their limited free time pampering a sugar partner than playing dating games.
· Lavish gifts. Sugar babies are often treated to thoughtful gifts that make them feel as special as they truly are. This might take the form of fine dining dates, spa treatments, or a spruce up to their wardrobe. Whatever lights a spark in them, their sugar daddy is willing to provide!
· Travel. Some sugar daddies travel for work, while others explore the world in their free time. No matter what motivates them to hop on a plane, they’re looking for the perfect companion to make their travels more memorable.
· Networking. Contrary to popular belief, many sugar babies are driven, ambitious, intelligent individuals who are looking to better their lives. Having a sugar daddy who can introduce them to influential people in their field is a fantastic way for them to take control of their own future.
The more you learn about sugar dating, you’ll see that there are many different reasons why people join the community. And there are also many different ways to have a mutual arrangement. The freedom and flexibility of creating a type of relationship that is out-of-the-box are exactly what makes this style of dating so fun!
Three sugar babies, three perspectives
Okay, so, the definition of sugar dating is alluring, for sure. But what is it really like to be a member of this community? Here are a few stories that will give you a good idea of what it’s like to be a sugar baby:
The aspiring student
Anthony (let’s call him—all names have been changed in this article) was enjoying life as an undergrad in international relations in New York City. What he was enjoying far less, though, was his job as a late-shift busser at a restaurant in Queens. So, he decided to take a shot at being a sugar baby.
At first, he wasn’t sure that he would have much success. After all, aren’t all sugar babies women? But, after he made his profile and started searching for matches, he realized that there were plenty of potential partners who would be open to meeting him.
After going on a few meet & greets with potential matches, James met a sugar partner with whom he had not only chemistry but also career interests! In fact, she had his dream job in international relations. At first, James was a bit star-struck, but his sugar partner put him at ease. Over the next few months, she answered every question he had about applying for and working in the humanitarian field. And, when she was able, she invited James to networking events as her plus one, introducing him sometimes as her friend’s son or her protegee. She even helped him find a paid internship so that he could quit that awful restaurant job.
Eventually, James graduated and moved to DC with his sugar partner’s help. Even though their arrangement ended after the move, he continues to send her occasional emails about his career.
The responsible older sister
Eva is the older half-sister to two high-school-aged brothers who live with her. It was never her plan to be a mother figure at 28, but she’s never been one to complain about her life circumstances. She loves her brothers to pieces, and wants them to have the best future possible. Of course, that means that she wants them to study instead of work, even though she secretly stresses about how to pay rent every month.
Unlike James, the idea of sugaring didn’t come to Eva—the sugar daddy did. She met her sugar partner at family night at her brothers’ school at the snack table. He was there with his son, a classmate of her brothers, and instantly hit it off with Eva. Casual conversation led to them exchanging contact info, and from there, a friendship blossomed. In time, he introduced Eva to the idea of a sugar relationship. Eva was clear about wanting a purely platonic relationship with her partner, and though he was disappointed, he respected her boundaries. For him, it was enough simply being around Eva and supporting her goal of sending her brothers off to college. Their arrangement was pretty simple. She would have her partner and his son over for dinner a few times per week and they would have a lovely family night. And, if Eva needed anything in the meantime, whether she needed to find a mechanic or have someone help her figure out her taxes, her sugar daddy was her first call.
Celeste was always drawn to the idea of a lavish lifestyle. Who wouldn’t love to be whisked away for a week in Paris or brush shoulders with Hollywood celebrities? But living in Middle America, those dreams felt very far from reality.
As she graduated from high school and then her local community college, everyone around her was starting to settle down, get married, and have kids. Her peers were living exactly the same life that their parents did before them. Celeste was determined to change her destiny. So, she made a profile for sugar dating. At first, she dated sugar daddies in her area, just to see if this was really a lifestyle that she could enjoy. Very quickly, she realized that she loved the social aspect of sugaring. With her ambition and positive attitude, she was quickly able to start making the connections she needed to move her life forward. One of her partners gifted her a set of brand-new luggage. Another bought her plane ticket to anywhere she wanted to go. A third got her connected with friends in California who could help her get settled into her new life.
Celeste’s story wasn’t the conventional path that her family or friends expected her to follow. But, after a few years of living the high life in San Francisco, she couldn’t be happier with her decision. She knew what she wanted and she went after it.
What’s it like to be a sugar daddy?
As you can see, there are many different possible experiences that a sugar baby can have. But what about the partner on the other end of the table? Here are a few sugar daddy stories to give you a good idea:
The world traveler
T.J. does technically fit the mold of what many people think of when they think of a sugar daddy. He’s older, wealthy, and divorced. And when he first started out in the world of sugaring, he leaned into the stereotypes. He dated much younger women who were interested in expensive gifts and VIP tables at the club. And he met a lot of good-hearted, bubbly people who kept his dating life exciting and fun. But he quickly realized that this wasn’t exactly the type of sugar relationship that made him happy.
What T.J. really wanted was someone he could comfortably travel with. Someone that he could chat with on long plane rides and sit in comfortable silence with on the beach. Someone with enough life experience to know what to do when travel plans went awry. And definitely, someone with enough knowledge of wine to help him pick out a good bottle.
Perhaps most importantly, he needed someone who could do all of this without falling in love or expecting a relationship once they got back home. So, he adjusted the age range in his searches, tailored his bio to include his description of an ideal partner, and started chatting. It took a few trial runs, and one very uncomfortable weekend getaway to Miami, but T.J. did find his ideal match. They’ve even talked about the possibility of starting a romantic relationship once T.J. retires.
The woman in charge
There’s no question that the business world can be a bit of a boy’s club. Which is why Chicago-based Ally is extremely proud of how quickly she’s been able to rise in the ranks at her corporate job. But the truth is, her no-nonsense attitude and attention to detail—not to mention long work hours—has made traditional dating the main challenge in her life. It turns out that men her age don’t actually want to date a boss. And oftentimes, their pride makes her high income an issue from the first date.
So, when a colleague of hers recommended that she try her hand at sugar dating, she thought it might be a good fit. She would never have to feel weird about picking up the check. She could set the terms of the relationship to align with her hectic work life. And when things stopped being fun, there would be no messy break-up to deal with.
Unlike many of the other stories on our list, Ally hasn’t settled on just one sugar baby. Instead, she likes to keep things casual and non-committal. She thinks she’ll probably give up sugaring when she meets the right person, but until then, she considers her dating life to be a part of her self-care routine!
How can you write your own success story?
If there’s one thing that we can take away from reading all of these sugar daddy stories is that there really is an arrangement for everyone. No matter what kind of mutually beneficial relationship you’re looking for, you can find like-minded people who are excited to meet you. So, how can you go about becoming a success story yourself? Here are a few tips:
- Keep learning about sugaring. The sugar community is huge! There are many different styles of sugaring, from friends with benefits, to long-term relationships, to platonic mentorships. By learning more about what is possible in this community, you’ll be in a better position to advocate for what you want.
- Get specific about your ideal mutually beneficial relationship. Once you’ve learned more about what’s possible in the world of arrangements, you can narrow down what you want to get out of it. This will help you streamline your search for partners and speak honestly about the terms of your relationship.
- Make the most of dating platforms. Yes, it is possible to meet sugar partners outside of online spaces. One of the sugar daddy stories we included in this article was an example of that! But there’s a real benefit that comes with signing up for a dedicated dating site: it will save you time! As soon as you have a finished profile, you’ll be able to start talking to potential partners instead of searching for them out in the world.
Don’t be afraid to write your own sugar daddy stories!
If you were inspired by the stories shared in this article, the only thing you have to do is be brave enough to start writing your own! Start chatting with potential partners, set up a few meet & greets, and see where this thrilling dating style will take you!